Tuesday, April 27, 2010

What a Kid!

I like kids...I always have. Sure, there are a few out there who are little jerks and don't know how to behave, which annoys me, but there truly are some good kids in this world. With some kids, I'm scared to think that they'll eventually be in charge of the world (for that matter, about half of the adults currently in charge terrify me!), but there are others who give you faith that the world will be well off in their hands.

I personally know several great kids -- Adrian, Harrison, Emilie, Ella, Bridgette, Shayla, Alex, Kaitlyn, Lauren, Emma, Aidan, Isaac, Aidan, Abbie, and many more -- and it always makes me happy to meet other great kids. About a year ago, I met two more great kids -- two of my neighbor kids -- Reece and Cora.

Last night, Reece, who is 13 years old, rang my doorbell and asked me if he could mow my yard this evening. I glanced out at the forest and asked him if he really wanted to do it because it had gotten really out of control after the last week of rain. He told me that he did -- and only wanted $10 for it. Well, I knew that I'd pay him more than $10 because it was BAD -- figured I'd give him $20 and we'd both be happy.

Fast forward to tonight...I came home from work and he was happily mowing away. My front yard was nearly done and looked fabulous! An hour or so later, he finished the back yard and I heard him fire up the weed-eater...which is something that the last professional I hired did NOT do. I looked out and he'd picked up all of the sticks, mowed, trimmed, and more...and did a FABULOUS job! To be honest, other than the time that Jase surprised me and mowed for me last summer, my yard has never looked better. He rang my doorbell to tell me he was done and I handed him $30 and I thought his eyes were going to bug out of his head because he was so excited. I also asked him if he'd be interested in mowing for me the rest of the summer, even though it wouldn't always pay this much. He's in and excited...and getting cookies later this week to share with his sisters.

Kids sometimes get such a bad rap. Sometimes it's deserved, but other times, it's definitely not. This kid, like many of the others I know, is going places! Let's hear it for polite, respectful, kids who have great morals and ethics!

Monday, April 26, 2010

Cruel and Unusual Punishment

I'm a liberal. I believe in equal rights. I believe in gay marriage. I believe in the separation of church and state. And I also am pro-choice.

Before I go too much farther, let me say that I'm pro-choice, which does not necessarily mean that I'm pro-abortion. Instead, it means that I believe in a woman's right to choose. And, I'm not going any deeper into my beliefs (do I think it's right or wrong) -- other than to say that I support the right to make a choice.

Last week, Oklahoma legislators sent two bills to the governors desk, restricting abortions. Friday, he vetoed the bills because neither contained provisions for cases of rape or incest. Today, with zero discussion, the House of Representatives overrode his veto. Tomorrow, the bills go to the Senate for their vote.

In a nutshell, the bills are designed to make it much harder, both physically and emotionally, for a woman to have an abortion. One bill requires a woman to complete an extremely long questionnaire, detailing her reasons for seeking an abortion, her education, her family background, her religion, and all sorts of other information -- information that will then not be kept behind the veil of doctor/patient confidentiality. This information, sans her name, will be gathered in a statewide database. In addition, this bill also requires that the women undergo a mandatory ultrasound, with the doctor explaining, in great detail, what he or she is seeing. The woman will be forced to listen to the fetal heartbeat. Essentially, these bills are designed to make it excruciating for women to obtain abortions.

Think about this...if a woman is brutally raped and becomes pregnant, she very well may not want to carry the fetus to term. She, after all of her trauma, makes the incredibly difficult decision to have an abortion. She seeks medical attention and is forced to face all of the above...and this is in addition to the horror she's already endured...all because Oklahoma's right-wing nut jobs are so determined that women should not have the right to make a decision regarding their own health.

Substitute a woman who's a victim of incest and you still have the same scenario. A woman whose life is in danger because of her pregnancy...again, same scenario. In fact, you can plug in any woman who's reached the decision to have an abortion into the above and she's still going to suffer additionally and unnecessarily.

We don't force condemned criminals to face this type of cruel and unusual punishment before they're put to death (let's not discuss if I agree with the death penalty or not). So why is it okay for us to make innocent women suffer?

If, as is expected, the Senate overrides the Governor's veto tomorrow, there are already court challenges planned. I can only hope that the highest court will find these bills to be unconstitutional.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

If This Doesn't Scare You...

...then I'm going to guess that not much will. Copied/pasted directly from www.newsok.com (The Daily Oklahoman). I don't even know what to say, other than the thought of this totally and completely terrifies me. We don't need more extremists with weapons:

Oklahoma Tea Party Leaders Consider Forming Volunteer Militia

Frustrated by recent political setbacks, tea party leaders and some conservative members of the Oklahoma Legislature say they would like to create a new volunteer militia to help defend against what they believe are improper federal infringements on state sovereignty.

Tea party movement leaders say they’ve discussed the idea with several supportive lawmakers and hope to get legislation next year to recognize a new volunteer force. They say the unit would not resemble militia groups that have been raided for allegedly plotting attacks on law enforcement officers.

"Is it scary? It sure is,” said tea party leader Al Gerhart, of Oklahoma City, who heads an umbrella group of tea party factions called the Oklahoma Constitutional Alliance. "But when do the states stop rolling over for the federal government?”

Thus far, the discussions have been exploratory. Even the proponents say they don’t know how an armed force would be organized nor how a state-based militia could block federal mandates. Critics also asserted that the force could inflame extremism, and that the National Guard already provides for the state’s military needs.

"Have they heard of the Oklahoma City bombing?” said Joseph Thai, a constitutional law professor at the University of Oklahoma. The state observes the 15th anniversary of the anti-government attack on Monday. Such actions could "throw fuel in the fire of radicals,” he said.

But the militia talks reflect the frustration of some grassroots groups seeking new ways of fighting recent federal initiatives, such as the health reform plan, which requires all citizens to have health insurance. Over the last year, tea party groups across the country have staged rallies and pressured politicians to protest big government and demand reduced public spending.

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In strongly conservative states like Oklahoma, some legislators have also discussed further action to fight federal policies, such as state legislation and lawsuits.

State Sen. Randy Brogdon, R-Owasso, a Republican candidate for governor who has appealed for tea party support, said supporters of a state militia have talked to him, and that he believes the citizen unit would be authorized under the Second Amendment to the Constitution.

The founding fathers "were not referring to a turkey shoot or a quail hunt. They really weren’t even talking about us having the ability to protect ourselves against each other,” Brogdon said. "The Second Amendment deals directly with the right of an individual to keep and bear arms to protect themselves from an overreaching federal government.”

Another lawmaker, state Rep. Charles Key, R-Oklahoma City, said he believes there’s a good chance of introducing legislation for a state-authorized militia next year.

Tea party leader J.W. Berry of the Tulsa-based OKforTea began soliciting interest in a state militia through his newsletter under the subject "Buy more guns, more bullets.”

"It’s not a far-right crazy plan or anything like that,” Berry said. "This would be done with the full cooperation of the state Legislature.”

State militias clearly are constitutionally authorized, but have not been used in recent times, said Glenn Reynolds, a law professor at the University of Tennessee and an expert on the Second Amendment. "Whether someone should get a militia to go toe-to-toe with the federal government … now, that strikes me as kind of silly,” he said.

Some conservative legislators in Oklahoma say talk of a militia, which would be privately recruited, armed and trained, goes too far.

"If the intent is to create a militia for disaster relief, we have the National Guard,” said Sen. Steve Russell, R-Oklahoma City, a retired Army lieutenant colonel. "Anything beyond that purpose should be viewed with great concern and caution.”

Democratic Gov. Brad Henry’s communications director Paul Sund also discounted the militia discussion, saying the National Guard handles state emergencies and security.

Federal authorities say that radical militia groups have not emerged in Oklahoma, unlike many other states, in part because of the legacy of the Oklahoma City bombing. On April 19, 1995, an anti-government conspiracy led by Army veteran Tim McVeigh exploded a bomb outside the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building, leaving 168 people dead.

Last month, FBI agents conducted a raid on the Hutaree militia group in Michigan and accused members of plotting to kill law enforcement officers.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Life Is So Very Fragile

A couple of weeks ago, I spent five days in Los Angeles for work. As part of the event that I planned and hosted, we visited a local martial arts school that's pretty well-known for training martial artists who end up in feature films and on television. Little did I know that someone I met at this school would reinforce an incredibly important life lesson in me, just two short weeks later.

We had a party one evening at this school and, after watching some seriously amazing performances, met several of the school's staff members. These people were not only amazing martial artists and performers, but also seemed to be amazing, all-around, genuinely good people, which is something that you find all too rarely in life.

One of these staff members was a woman named April. When we met her, she was introduced to us as a quickly-rising Hollywood stuntwoman who was in high demand. From her performance, you could see exactly why -- she made flying, flipping, and twisting through the air seem totally effortless -- all while smiling from ear to ear. She just radiated positive energy.

At the end of the evening as several of us were driving back to our hotel, we discussed the party and her name came up as someone who had impressed each of us. It was partially because of her performance, but mostly because of her demeanor -- and because, even though she didn't know us, as we watched her pull on her motorcycle helmet and gloves and prepare to leave, she thanked us for visiting her school and wished us safe travels, both around LA and on our journeys home.

This morning, I opened my email at work and scanned through it when one caught my attention...and I opened it with dread. It seems that, early last week, April was traveling down 101 in LA on her way to a studio set to perform some stuntwork, when she was cut off by an inattentive driver and killed as a result of the ensuing accident.

I feel so horrible for April's family and friends. From everything I heard, she lived a life that was exactly as I thought it -- happy, loving, humble, cheerful, and full of life. She was four years younger than me...way too young to die.

I truly didn't know this young woman, but I feel a duty after meeting her...a duty to try to live my life to the fullest and ensure that my loved ones know that they are loved. I challenge you to do the same.

Am I Being Too Mean?

There’s something that annoys me that I just need to get off of my chest. It’s quite possible that what I’m about to write may seriously irritate some people, which is not my intent. If you choose to read on, please know that I honestly don’t intend to offend anyone.

So, here it is: I’m frustrated by women who constantly complain about being pregnant. First, let me say that, yes, I do think that when you are pregnant you should get to whine some – after all, it can’t be the most pleasant feeling in the world – and you are entitled to complain…a great deal. What annoys me, though, are the women who complain from the first moment of conception and don’t stop until after the child is born (and even then, probably don’t) – those who can talk about nothing except their misery for nine straight months.

Why does it annoy me? Because there are a TON of women in the world who are unable to have their own children – women who would gladly trade places with those who are complaining about being pregnant…women who would give anything to suffer from morning sickness, swollen ankles, and the inability to tie their own shoes.

In fact, I recently had dinner with a great friend who currently is facing infertility. She and her husband are totally awesome people and would make amazing parents, but it sounds like pregnancy may not be an option for them. They’re facing this struggle as they do every other struggle in their life – head-on and rationally. Instead of whining or complaining about their infertility, they are checking into adoption options and are discussing ways to provide a home for children who might not otherwise have a real mom and dad. But that doesn’t mean that my friends (especially the wife) don’t feel momentary pain when they see pregnant women. Like the phenomenal people they are, they’re happy for the expectant mother, but you still can see a trace of sadness in their eyes – sadness over the fact that the world will never know the unique combination of them.

Has my friend ever said anything to me about pregnant women who continually complain? Nope. But I know that she would give nearly anything to be able to endure the “tortures” of pregnancy...and I wish that others would understand that while they may dread pregnancy, others may long for it.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

This is the Story that Never Ends...

Last Thursday, my trusty old cell phone finally bit the dust. I was at work when the phone became incredibly hot to the touch and shut itself off. No matter what I tried, it wouldn't turn back on. So, after work, I headed off to Verizon to finally upgrade to a new phone.

Now, I should preface all of this by saying that I've been doing research on new smartphones and was torn between canceling my account with Verizon after 14 years (was with Kansas Cellular, who became Alltel, who became Verizon) and signing a new two year contract. Part of me wanted to go with AT&T and get an iPhone, but the other part of me wanted to stay with Verizon to get a Droid. Well, I finally decided to re-up with Verizon and buy a cute little Droid.

So, back to my story...I walked in to the store, knowing pretty much what I wanted to buy, but was accosted by a salesguy, who I could immediately tell was full of himself and ready to do basically anything to sell me a phone. I kind of ignored him, but finally told him the exact phone I wanted to purchase. His eyes lit up because, of course, they work on commission and he was getting a heck of a sale.

As we walked to the computer to complete my sale, I asked him why the phone cost $100 more in the store than online. He told me that was just the way it was...and I told him he could either give me the same deal (I didn't want to mess with waiting for six-eight weeks to receive a rebate in the mail), or I'd walk and buy it online. He told me that was impossible, so I headed for the door. He quickly chased me down and told me he could "get permission" to give me the deal. Okay, no problem...right? Wrong.

After about 15 minutes of ringing up my new phone and waiting through me picking a case, he finally told me that the phone wasn't in stock and it would have to be shipped to me. Again, I told him I was walking because I didn't want to wait. He told me, "I will have it overnighted to you today so that it will be on your doorstep tomorrow by 1 pm. I PROMISE it will be there." I should have known he was a liar.

Friday morning came and went and, when I took a late lunch at 1 pm, I came home to find...no phone. Back at work, I received an email that indicated that my phone would arrive on Monday. Um, what? That wasn't what I was promised. I called the Verizon store manager and after a pretty long discussion (mostly one-sided), we reached an amicable solution, which includes some discounts for me. But I still had no phone...and wouldn't until Monday.

Monday finally rolls around and I met the FedEx truck at the end of my street on my lunch break. I was so excited because I knew he'd left my phone. Wrong! He left me a note that said I had to sign for the package, which meant I had to drive to the south side to pick up my phone...after 4 pm.

After work, I drive down to the south side and pick up my phone. I immediately head to the Verizon store to have my numbers and contacts transferred to my new phone...and encountered another semi-jackassish salesguy (not my original one, who, I have a hunch, may have gotten fired after what the manager told me), offered to help me. I dealt with his so-called humor for nearly an hour and finally set out for home, with my shiny new pink encased Droid in my hands.

This morning, I grabbed my car charger on the way out the door. I went to plug it in, once in the car, and discovered that they sent me the wrong charger. I began to wonder if this phone saga was ever going to end! After work, I went back to Verizon AGAIN, and, after waiting 20 minutes to be waited on, they gave me the new charger and told me good-bye. I have a hunch they were happy to see the last of me...I know that I don't want to see them again!

So, is this the phone saga that never ends? I guess we'll see. For now, everything seems to be great and I absolutely LOVE my phone (no regrets about not getting an iPhone)!